Your child may suffer from excessive fears or phobias. For example, your child may be afraid of dogs, the dark, germs, or monsters.
The fears mentioned in this article are overwhelming and atypical, meaning that the fear is out of proportion or is developmentally inappropriate for the child’s age. Specific fears are only a problem if they significantly impact daily functioning and the ability to enjoy life.
Fears that seem debilitating, persistent, or even exhausting may represent a true psychological symptom worthy of diagnosis and treatment. In the case of a phobia, a child is not generally anxious, just overwhelmingly afraid of something. This phobia often feels to parents like unreasonable fear that does not extend to other areas of life.
Your child may be so afraid of shots that everyone in the house dreads the annual doctor’s appointment. This child worries for months about the flu shot and often cries for hours or cannot sleep for fear of the shot. The fear leads to refusal to go into the doctor’s office, a panic attack or a meltdown at the thought.
This child may avoid sharing symptoms of illness for fear that the doctor will be called. Lots of kids are afraid of shots, but a phobia would extend to significantly impact your child’s life. After the shots are done, as painful and awful as it may be for everyone, you would see a substantial decrease in anxiety until it becomes fall again, and you begin to get close to the annual physical.
What do challenges with Phobias look like?
- Saying, “There’s a monster under my bed?”
- Suffering from a fear of being alone?
- Becoming extremely worried when parents go to the basement?
- Struggling to sleep in his own bedroom at night?
- Complaining of the dark and unable to sleep?
- Fearing dogs so much that that she will not go to the park?
- Seeming to be unable to stop talking about spiders?
- Showing intense fear of being bitten by a bug or stung by a bee?
- Fearing riding the elevator, making you climb eight flights of stairs at the doctor’s office?
- Becoming inconsolable before receiving an immunization?
- Refusing to go outside if it is windy or raining? Deathly fear of tornados or storms?
Why is Phobias happening?
Excessive worry and phobias are types of specific anxiety. It is important to consider what kind of anxiety your child may be experiencing. Fears that are more generalized across a number of different situations are not phobias. Specific phobias are intense fears about specific situations, objects, or animals.
Clinically, phobias are common in children. If you find yourself reorganizing your life to avoid flying because your child refuses to go on an airplane, your child may have a phobia. If you get the nasal spray flu shot even though it doesn’t work, to save peace of mind, your child may have a phobia of injections. If you walk away from the park because there will be fewer dogs, and dogs mean your child will run away shrieking and running, then maybe your child has a phobia. A child who has a phobia will have an extreme reaction, a tantrum, panic symptoms like hyperventilating, sweating, or nausea. You will likely be able to see the fear visibly in your child. Anxious children often have wide eyes, cold, clammy hands, foot tapping, hand wringing, and stiff posture. Treatment for these extreme fears will include gradual exposure paired with coping strategies, relaxation and anxiety reduction. Having the help of a professional is often recommended, and research shows that phobias are relatively easy to treat, so that is the good news!
How can I manage Phobias at home?
If your child has a phobia that is impacting day-to-day functioning, it may help to gradually expose your child to the feared stimuli and to allow anxiety to remit, thus fighting that need to escape and avoid. This gradual exposure is best completed with the help of a professional counselor or psychologist, particularly if the fear is severe and significant.
If your child fears dogs, first you could read books about dogs and look at pictures while noticing your child’s anxiety level. Do this over several weeks spacing out the books until your child can read the books without worrying. Then, watch a familiar dog from a distance without contact. Gradually move to getting closer and closer, making sure the “exposure” is safe and will not traumatize your child.
Work to be able to let a familiar dog sniff your child and to have them feel comfortable petting the animal. In public, you do not want your child approaching unfamiliar dogs, but it is nice to be able to walk down the street without screaming and crying at the sight of an animal.
By exposing your child gradually to the feared object or animal, you may be able to alleviate mild anxiety before it becomes more serious. This regular exposure to the feared object without allowing for escape tends to alleviate anxiety over time. If, however, the child is already experiencing extreme distress, seek out the services of a psychologist right away.
Approach a fear of the dark similarly, with gradual exposure until your child is quite comfortable with the lights on, just a lamp, the night light, and so on. As we noted, working with a clinician who has expertise in this area can help guide the speed and nature of these “exposures” with “response prevention,” meaning the child does not try to escape the scary thing. If your child experiences fear and avoids the stimulus, it reinforces the phobia because getting away alleviates anxiety. You want to see anxiety decrease in the presence of something feared or in a simulated situation in which the feared thing is introduced in books or pictures. Phobias are relatively easy to treat, as noted above, with a little support.
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